Me: ‘I do wonder if the plate-spinning model of trying to “balance” career, creativity, and companionship by looking at them largely in isolation isn’t a little flawed. Doesn’t feel very… human 😊. A life can be productively broken down for helping with certain constrained examination, but we mustn’t forget to put it back together again when making decisions!’
Lucky girl: ‘[…] to be super good in what you do, you need to invest a lot of time and energy so by default other things in life will slip.’
Me: ‘What if that thing you wanted to get super good at were (to quote Bertie Wooster) “to just exist beautifully”? Then you’d be investing your time and energy on the balance, rather than the individual components and then thinking about how well they’re balanced afterwards 😊.’
The change from landed to movable wealth produced a feverish struggle for money, and the Greek language had to invent a word, pleonexia, to denote this appetite for ‘more and more’, and another word, chrematistike, for the ‘busy pursuit of riches’.
Hitching the power of self-deception to the power of default has implications beyond a bit of thoughtless spending. When we live our lives as if we’re in one of those meetings that, deeming it too difficult to reach a conclusion there and then, concludes to have another meeting instead, we do more than just delay decisions.
all expenditure is inherently and inescapably ethical. Because all expenditure is a trade-off that expresses how we want the world to be.
‘I think possibly the best thing about a job being inside the heads of rich folk (as I had for a decade) is that it’s a continual reminder to check in on whether what life choices you’re making every day actually work.’